“Sobonfu Somé says that in her tradition, that is the Dagara tribal tradition, our expressed grief is food for the spirits of our ancestors. Thich Nhat Hanh says that when we are able to recognize and care for our grief, or any feeling, the ancestors in us are also able to do this. :)
Please continue to look deeply into your feelings. Sometime after reading your post yesterday, an image came to me. We carry unresolved grief with us like heavy objects in a burden basket. Anything left in our basket we pass on to others, our children. This work is your gift to the world.
We love you.”
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Thanks again, Evan <3